Habit #6: Catch her off guard

You may have magic hands, but if you make love the same way, time after time, sooner or later she's going to find it as exciting as a rerun of This Old House. "When a woman anticipates every move a man is going to make," says John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, "she may no longer become excited by sex -- and this is very common." Here's how to make a few bedroom improvements:

Try new positions

"My number-one advice for men is: Change your sexual positions frequently," says Cadell. "Her orgasm will feel different in every position, and she'll be grateful for your creativity."

Get away from it all
"Changing the environment is very important for a woman," says Gray. "If you can't afford a hotel, camp out. It's not the location so much as the feeling that she doesn't have to worry about the details, that you're doing the thinking. That gets her out of her mind and into her body."

Habit #7: Play at the pump

While you're trying all those new positions and varied positions (woohoo!), don't forget about the most basic technique of intercourse: the thrusting of your penis. "Monotonous pumping can have a numbing effect on the woman, especially if she's not aroused enough to respond to intense sensation," says Felice Dunas, Ph.D., author of Passion Play. Variations in the depth, speed, rhythm and timing of your pelvic thrusts can dramatically enhance the experience for both of you. Dunas suggests starting with mostly shallow, slow thrusts; as your partner becomes more aroused, mix in a higher percentage of deeper thrusts. To really keep her on her toes, try some brief pauses between thrusts.