The female orgasm, so close yet so far. Although the big O may seem elusive and magical achieving it is simpler than you think. It comes down to two primary blocks: the right mind-set and the right moves.
Step 1: Tense up
How can tension help a woman in achieving orgasm? Well, it can if it’s muscle tension (myotonia).
One thing you should rethink is the “just lying there and relaxing” attitude. But it turns out that muscle tension is often necessary for an orgasm. In my experience, the majority of women learn to have their first orgasm by integrating an ample amount of leg, abdominal, and buttock tension.
Women have noticed that the most orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their lower pelvis. Kegel exercises are very helpful in that area.
So what’s the secret of muscle tension?
In fact, contracting certain muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often to the genital area. And this paves the way to arousal, the number one factor that leads most women to orgasm.
Step 2: Prepare your mind
Orgasm starts in your head, so think about a hot scenario or read or watch some sexy stuff with your clothes on. These mind tricks will take you a step closer to orgasm.
Step 3: Create your "O" environment
Create a space that breathes sensuality to you. Music, lighting, background videos, mirrors and so on can contribute to hitting the letter O. A sexy atmosphere that turns you on will make you feel equally inspired and at ease.
Step 4: Wind down
So, where's the relaxation part of this equation? It is in a woman’s brain. During sex, a woman should ward off all distractions to be focused simply on feeling the sensations of the stimulation.
Think of a flowing river, sunrise, or anything that puts "I can take as long as I want" or "This really feels great" mental mood on. This will keep your brain occupied, yet ready for sexual arousal.
